I encourage you to examine why it is you want to be critical of the porn industry specifically. There are a lot of gendered sectors of labor that don’t tend to attract the level of ire from all quarters the way that sex work does. Its important to remember when having these conversations about sex work that society rewards people who speak derisively against sex workers and it rewards people speaking or acting patronizingly on behalf of sex workers and denying us agency. There are major class, gendered, and racial systems of oppression at play which create these incentives, in addition to social stigma against sex work generally. It is extremely difficult for people outside of the industry to single out our industry for criticism without playing to these incentives.
The main error that “allies” tend to commit when engaging in this type of criticism is dematerializing our labor. Treating sexual labor as essentially different from non-sexual forms of labor and using metaphysical, aesthetic, or emotional arguments to support this treatment is what I mean here. Sometimes you will see this argued for explicitly and other times its implicit and assumed in a critique of sex work. Sex work is material labor which employs bodies to create products and perform services. The differences between sexual and non-sexual labor are socially constructed and attempts to suggest otherwise are anti-materialist.
Another error “allies” commit is treating our bodies and our sexualities as cultural products which can be critiqued objectively, a critique which tends to be invasive and is widely recognized, especially in feminist circles, as inappropriate when applied to persons outside our particular economic relationship to sex. If you are talking about a product made by the sexual labor of others, probably people less advantaged economically than yourself, it is important to respect the bodies and sexualities of those persons and not talk about them in ways which would make you uncomfortable if they were applied to yourself.
Finally, “allies” commonly cite no other sources other than their own experiences as consumers of sexual labor and propaganda from sources which sex workers view as hostile. When actual sex workers mention their experiences with sex work, they are often dismissed. Speaking on issues where the person is not knowledgeable is the third major error sex work critics make.
I don’t believe I have specifically addressed the issue of whether or not all porn is violent before, but it is true, that other than in the abstract where all of capitalism is upheld by violence, not all pornography is specifically or directly violent.
One claim that I take particular issue with, and have addressed before on this blog, is the claim that “all porn is rape”. Specifically, as a survivor of sexual assault I take great issue with people applying the idea of abstract economic coercion under capitalism to equate every sexual experience I have had in front of a camera (which range from neutral to extremely positive and emotionally meaningful) to rape.
The analogy that I use in that particular situation is that though there is coercion involved in wage labor in general there is a meaningful difference in kind and in type of the violence used to enforce that and the violence involved in enforcing slavery. No one can or does seriously argue that wage labor is not preferable, and indeed progressive in comparison, to feudalism or slavery. It is offensive to equate paid sexual labor to sexual slavery or rape.