[TW: sexual assault] Check out the incredibly important conversation happening on Suey Park’s timeline about the “victim” vs. “survivor” binary in sexual assault rhetoric.

this is great. i saw someone arguing w/ another telling them to not identify as a victim & it was too triggering to engage in at the time. But it seems our society really hates victims, always saying you want to be a victim and you’re making yourself into a victim. But with sexual assault and rape especially, some of us want to be able to say Yes, we are Victims. this was a crime, an assault, an attack and we were victimized. being a survivor is great but even without the label we are surviving that shit everyday after. let people claim their own terms and places within their healing and naming how they want. i should thank Suey on twitter too.

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I’m so sick of stories where white men take violent revenge on their wives/daughters rapists. They’re always sympathized with and the story is always about their feelings no matter how violent they get, when women who take revenge on their own rapists - or even just feel angry at them for too long - get called crazy and out-of-control and punished.

fuck white dude revenge fantasies, they always boil down to ‘YOU TOUCHED MY STUFF I’LL KILL YOU’

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New Research Shows 0.6% of Rape Allegations are False





And for those interested, you can find the report HERE.

Just in case any dudebros are unclear on what this means: it means that your buddy who totally just had some bitch trying to ruin his life by accusing him of rape…almost certainly actually did rape her.  

Just keep that in mind.

99.4% are real.

I just wanna highlight an important section from the report:

The report shows that a significant number of these cases involved young, often vulnerable people. About half of the cases involved people aged 21 years old and under, and some involved people with mental health difficulties. In some cases, the person alleged to have made the false report had undoubtedly been the victim of some kind of offence, even if not the one which he or she had reported. 

Also another “false allegation” is described: 

[A woman who] ultimately pleaded guilty to perverting the course of justice on the basis that she had falsely retracted true allegations of rape she had made against her husband.

And this: 

In 38% of all decisions, the initial complaint of rape or domestic violence had been made by someone other than the suspect. […] It was a feature of these cases that the suspect later reported that the whole thing had spiralled out of control and he or she had felt unable to stop the investigation. 

Think about that for a while.

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"The rape joke is that you were eight.
The rape joke is that at the time,
you didn’t know people had sex to express love.
The rape joke is that the only other person
who’d seen you naked was your mom.
The rape joke is that he called you ‘beautiful’ first.
The rape joke is that he held your hands together
and told you to ‘try harder’ when you struggled.
The rape joke is that you believed him
when he told you were overreacting.
The rape joke is that your grandma
called him a nice boy and asked him to stay for dinner.
The rape joke is that he winked at you
when you apologized to your parents for not coming
downstairs the first time you were called.
The rape joke is that his friends
high-fived him for “getting some.”
The rape joke is that you still don’t feel like
you’ve regrown the pieces he stole.
The rape joke is that he was conceived when his
dad slapped himself into his snoring mother.
The rape joke is that her friends told her
she was lucky someone wanted her.
The rape joke is that each year in the United States,
32,000 other women’s bellies
ripen with life against their will.
The rape joke is that he never learned
to touch without scarring.
The rape joke is that your classmate thinks
‘have you seen what asses look like in yoga pants?’
is an argument.
The rape joke is your new boyfriend kissing
you and telling you he ‘raped’ his math test.
The rape joke is that ‘Why are girls so scared of rape? Y’all should feel pride that a guy risked his life in jail just to fuck you’
is a popular Tweet right now.
The rape joke is that you wake up to
the memory of him laughing,
“now that wasn’t so bad, was it?”
The rape joke is that it’s been twelve years and
you still quiver when someone touches you.
The rape joke is that he hasn’t stopped laughing.
The rape joke is that you forgot how to."
- Lora Mathis, The Rape Joke (via thespinstersquad)

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nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by police officers, attorneys, and other authority figures

more info about project unbreakable here

original tumblr here

previously: nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by their friends/family

This is so wrong. There is no greater pain than experiencing sexual abuse and then being told it was your fault…..Its NEVER your fault.

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5 Things More Likely To Happen To You Than Being Falsely Accused Of Rape




A man is 631 times more likely to become an NFL player than to be falsely accused of rape.

"We end on a serious note. Because 1 in 33 men will be raped in his lifetime, men are 82,000x more likely to be raped than falsely accused of rape. It seems many of us would do well to pay more attention to how rape culture affects us all than be paranoid about false accusers."

that last paragraph

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PLEASE SIGNAL BOOST THIS, REBLOG IT, WHATEVER. This is being reported on as an “exclusive story” to a local cable news channel in LA. THIS STORY SHOULD NOT BE BURIED. This woman was kidnapped, they attempted to rape her, and she nearly DIED getting away. Now the LAPD want the whole thing to go away. DON’T LET IT.

The officers responsible for the KIDNAP AND SEXUAL ASSAULT of Kim Nguyen are:

David E. Shin (신은총) and Jinseok Oh (오진석) of Olympic Division.


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It has been argued that rape constituted a form of social control in so far as it represented a means of keeping women ‘in their place’, a way of constraining their behaviour. … It is not rape itself which constitutes a form of social control but the internationalisation by women, through continual socialisation, of the possibility of rape. This implicit threat of rape is conveyed in terms of certain prescriptions which are placed upon the behaviour of girls and women, and through common-sense understandings that ‘naturalise’ gender appropriate forms of behaviour. Both the implicit threat of rape, couched in terms of prevalent social stereotypes, and the conventionally accepted ways to avoid such an experience, being in some places rather than others, doing some things but not others, adopting only specific attitudes, etc., are conveyed, and continually reinforced along with a whole range of cultural values concerning female (and male) sexuality.

The cumulative effect of press reports of rape is to remind women of their vulnerability, to create an atmosphere of fear and to suggest, as a solution, that women should withdraw to the traditional shelter of the domestic sphere and the protection of their men. … In other words, women are to limit their freedom in order to avoid rape. The irony of this kind of advice and the related representation of rape in the media is that they are based on a false premise. Namely that rape is an isolated, socially unstructured phenomenon which affects specific categories of women in special social circumstances. The reality is significantly different, however, for rape may take place within the domestic sphere, among family and friends, as much as amongst strangers. Hence rape becomes a form of social control in a dual sense, first, inasmuch as it is a form of physical coercion and violence, and second, in so far as the fear or threat of rape, as communicated by the media, in literature, on film, and in the press, serves to socialise women into tacitly constraining and limiting their own forms of behaviour and social activity.

- Women, Sexuality and Social Control: Accounting for Rape: Reality and myth in press reporting - Carol Smart and Barry Smart (via sociolab)

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Short List of Male Celebrities that beat and/or rape women.


  • Charlie Sheen
  • Sean Connery
  • Gary Oldman
  • David Hasselhoff
  • Mel Gibson
  • Michael Fassbender
  • Nicholas Cage
  • Gary Busey
  • Bill Murray
  • Eminem
  • Alec Baldwin
  • Tommy Lee
  • Josh Brolin
  • Sean Penn
  • Woody Allen
  • Roman Polanski
  • Axl Rose
  • Sonny Bono
  • John Lennon
  • Sean Bean
  • Elvis Presley
  • Kelsey Grammar
  • Chris Brown

Who Tumblr/Internet/Society cares about when they beat/rape women:

  • Chris Brown

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Last week, Woody Allen was nominated for his latest Oscar. But this time, I refuse to fall apart. For so long, Woody Allen’s acceptance silenced me. It felt like a personal rebuke, like the awards and accolades were a way to tell me to shut up and go away. But the survivors of sexual abuse who have reached out to me – to support me and to share their fears of coming forward, of being called a liar, of being told their memories aren’t their memories – have given me a reason to not be silent, if only so others know that they don’t have to be silent either.

Today, I consider myself lucky. I am happily married. I have the support of my amazing brothers and sisters. I have a mother who found within herself a well of fortitude that saved us from the chaos a predator brought into our home.

But others are still scared, vulnerable, and struggling for the courage to tell the truth. The message that Hollywood sends matters for them.

What if it had been your child, Cate Blanchett? Louis CK? Alec Baldwin? What if it had been you, Emma Stone? Or you, Scarlett Johansson? You knew me when I was a little girl, Diane Keaton. Have you forgotten me?

Woody Allen is a living testament to the way our society fails the survivors of sexual assault and abuse.

So imagine your seven-year-old daughter being led into an attic by Woody Allen. Imagine she spends a lifetime stricken with nausea at the mention of his name. Imagine a world that celebrates her tormenter.

Are you imagining that? Now, what’s your favorite Woody Allen movie?

- An Open Letter From Dylan Farrow (via bbrando)

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