In Bradenton, Fla., a man shot a high school senior to death after she and her friends refused to perform oral sex at his request.
In Chicago, a scared 15-year-old was hit by a car and died after she tried escaping from harassers on a bus.
Again, in Chicago, a man grabbed a 19-year-old walking on a public thoroughfare, pulled her onto a gangway and assaulted her.
In Savannah, Georgia, a woman was walking alone at night and three men approached her. She ignored them, but they pushed her to the ground and sexually assaulted her.
In Manhattan, a 29-year-old pregnant woman was killed when men catcalling from a van drove onto the sidewalk and hit her and her friend.
Last week, a runner in California — a woman — was stopped and asked, by a strange man in a car, if she wanted a ride. When she declined he ran her over twice."
rape culture means we are expected to figure out whether or not you’re just kidding about raping us
and god fucking help us if we get it wrong. you’re kidding and we think you’re not? we’re humorless bitches, we’re overreacting, we’re anti-men, we’re feminazis… you’re NOT kidding and we think you are? we were asking for it, we deserved it for being stupid, we’re sluts that clearly wanted it, etc. :(
My best friends cousin has been arrested in Dubai, after being raped: she was arrest because she had ‘sex’ before marriage, I’ve seen tumblr do this before and i know that you are all kind enough to sign it! She needs 100,000 signatures. Please, please, help!
guys, she’s going to prison because she was raped. please take 10 seconds of your time to sign the petition.
so let me get this straight
you tell us, “Rapists exist and we can’t do anything about it.”
but we can prevent them from raping us?
like you don’t think we as a culture have any power to control these shit holes, but you think we as individuals do?
"They’re so unruly it’s out of our hands! But you can control their behavior by wearing different clothes. It’s that easy!"
No, this is very clearly a case of you wanting us to take responsibility for our abuser’s actions while not being accountable for how you perpetuate rape culture and enable rapists.
I couldn’t believe this when I read the headline. I would understand if it was difficult to handle a rape case that happened several weeks previously, but the way the company and its counselors shut her down and blamed her for it is absolutely disgusting and abhorrent. Leaves a really bad taste in my mouth about this program: note that it was very difficult for her to report the rape at all.For friends and others currently in the program or planning to be, putting my best vibes your way and hoping you never have to go through something like this.It took a lot of strength for this person to report what happened to them even after everything they went through.Go to title link above for full piece, a lot of it is in excerpts here below. Again: TW for rape, and rape cultureI had heard about the Disney College Program from a few friends that had an amazing time working for the company and thought it would be better than nothing. Add the unlimited access to their theme parks, warm weather, and four extra months to figure out what to do with my life and it sounded pretty ideal.I was accepted into the program and arrived in mid-August. After a few days of orientation, I started work on Main Street U.S.A. in the Magic Kingdom.Three weeks into the program, I was raped by one of my co-workers.I don’t feel a desire to share every detail from that night, but I’ll give you the bare bones: He and I went to a party together, we went back to his apartment later, and I said “no,” but he wouldn’t stop.For two months I kept everything that happened that night to myself. I told my roommates that things went fine and I had a good night. I didn’t know how to feel about what happened. In the beginning, I told myself it was a misunderstanding; maybe he hadn’t heard me. I blamed myself; I should have yelled louder. I should have pushed harder. I should have punched him and ran out of the room. I always thought that if I was ever raped I would beat the guy up. Does that mean I wasn’t raped?I finally decided to talk to someone after the first time I ran into him outside of work. He showed up at my friend’s Halloween party dressed as the Phantom of the Opera, which made seeing him that much more unnerving. I spent the rest of the night watching him hit on girls, worrying, and wondering whether or not I should tell my co-workers what happened.I made an appointment to see one of the counselors in Disney’s Employee Assistance Program. I tried to be optimistic.Of course they’ll listen to me. It’s Disney, a company built on childhood innocence and happiness. Wouldn’t they want to fire an accused rapist immediately? (Spoiler Alert: No.)I recounted everything that happened that night while the counselor stayed silent and seemed at least mildly sympathetic. When I told her we had been drinking, her face changed from “concerned” to “you made a mistake.” Still, I told her, I said “no” the entire time and he never listened.The first thing she said to me was “Well, now you know not to be hanging around boys in the middle of the night. You know what they want.”Take a few seconds and re-read that. Now let’s unpack it.A certified counselor was insinuating that it was my fault that my coworker decided to rape me — as if I should have known better than to interact with any man after dark. Not only that, but she was advising me to approach every interaction with a man as if he is a potential rapist, including every man that works at Disney World. If I react to a man with anything less than hostility after sundown, whatever happens is my fault.I told her that “no” means “no” whether it’s day or night. That was apparently too radical an idea for her, as she said nothing in reply. She continued to make excuses for my rapist.