the idea of people having to be ‘useful’ is just so gross, like people do not exist to be used
having to produce something and have a use is a capitalist ideal and not an intrinsic part of humanity
just by being alive you are human and you are worth something and you can never be useless
Anonymous asked: can you explain the tina fey quote? i'm not sure i understand what she's saying (sorry for being dumb)
So I looked up the context of the quote and it’s actually even worse than I thought. I knew that Sally Hemings was a fourteen-year-old Black girl PREYED UPON by Thomas Jefferson, HER SLAVE OWNER. And that it’s really fucked up of Tina Fey to act like Black female slaves were “lucky” to be sexually exploited and raped by white men. But moreover, in Tina Fey’s Bossy Pants book, where that quote is from, she claims that at University of Virginia, she was “Mexican” because she wasn’t “as white” as the wealthy, blond-haired, blue-eyed girls in her classes, who apparently she is characterizing as Martha Jeffersons (Jefferson’s wife), nor, apparently was she “ethnic enough” to be as “exciting” as the Black women who she characterizes as “Sally Hemingses.”
If that wasn’t racist enough, she also is implying that the fact Black women have been sexually exploited and fetishized by white men benefits Black women and hurts white women and means white men prefer them to us, thus rendering them our “competitors” for white male attention. She did a similar thing when she said that beauty standards for “women” (aka WHITE women) are made worse because some female celebrities of color have promoted empowerment in their beauty, and again characterizes white men’s fetishization of women of color as detrimental to white women:
“But I think the first real change in women’s body image came when JLo turned it butt-style. That was the first time that having a large-scale situation in the back was part of mainstream American beauty. Girls wanted butts now. Men were free to admit that they had always enjoyed them. And then, what felt like moments later, boom—Beyoncé brought the leg meat. A back porch and thick muscular legs were now widely admired. And from that day forward, women embraced their diversity and realized that all shapes and sizes are beautiful. Ah ha ha. No. I’m totally messing with you. All Beyonce and JLo have done is add to the laundry list of attributes women must have to qualify as beautiful. Now every girl is expected to have Caucasian blue eyes, full Spanish lips, a classic button nose, hairless Asian skin with a California tan, a Jamaican dance hall ass, long Swedish legs, small Japanese feet, the abs of a lesbian gym owner, the hips of a nine-year-old boy, the arms of Michelle Obama, and doll tits. The person closest to actually achieving this look is Kim Kardashian, who, as we know, was made by Russian scientists to sabotage our athletes.”
So basically Tina Fey is blaming celebrity women of color for daring to be seen as beautiful and making it “harder” for white women in a society white men control. She is taking the attributes women of color are fetishized for and blaming these women for having these attributes as opposed to blaming white men for fetishizing these attributes, and acting as if this fetishization is something woc have benefited from at white women’s expense. She is also blaming woc for the impossible beauty standards in our culture (THAT WHITE MEN MADE). She not only does that, but she characterizes these women of color is fetishistic ways, reducing them to an ass, “leg meat,” arms, lips… This is the first time I’ve seen this quote in full and it convinces me that Tina Fey is a raging racist and racialized misogynist.
10 BETTER BODY AFFIRMATIONS FOR YOUNG people*
1. Your body is in flux for the rest of your life. Think of your body as fluid instead of static — it’s always going to change. So get comfortable with those changes.
2. No one will love you or not love you because of your body. You are lovable because you’re you, not because your body looks a certain way.
3. The most intensely personal relationship you’ll ever have is with your body. It’s a lifelong relationship that’s well worth investing in and nurturing the same way you would with loved ones.
4. You don’t owe your body to anyone. Not sexually, not aesthetically. Your body is yours. Period.
5. What someone else says about your body says more about them than it does about you. Look past the actual snark to the person who’s saying it, because it’s only a reflection of what they think of themselves. That’s when you’ll see how little power their words have.
6. Your body is not a reflection of your character. It’s a physical home for the complex and wondrous and unique being that is you.
7. Take up as much space as you want. You don’t have to be small, or quiet, or docile, regardless of your physical size.
8. Everything you need to accept your body is already inside you. There’s no book, or diet, or workout routine or external affirmation that you need to feel good about your body right now.
9. Your body is a priority. It’s always trying to tell you things. Taking the time to listen to is of the utmost importance.
10. Wear whatever you want. Your body shape does not dictate your personal style, and fashion rules that say otherwise are wrong. Dress yourself in a way that makes you feel happy and confident and beautiful, because guess what? You are.
I feel like the body positive movement has a lot of flaws but we need to figure out a way to have better body affirmations that take into account the social experiences of bodies.
Like I’m transgender and I experience a lot of dysphoria and that goes to war with my need to feel good about my body as a fat person. I’ve accepted my fat body but I can’t accept my feminine body, even though my affirmation would be “there’s no such thing as a feminine body”. And as a disabled person I also have issues with my body because it can feel like it hates me. I don’t even have a body affirmation for that.
And I know that there are all kinds of people who experience a war with their body either based on messages from society or their own experiences. I feel like the body positive movement needs to focus on that.
I love this post being about younger bodies because wow I could have used some of these when I was younger.
What are some body affirmations you use? What are some that you need?